I wish I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard friends, family members, and especially co-workers say to me “I’m just too busy right now” as though it’s an appropriate excuse for what boils down to people undeniably ignoring you. I’d be able to retire comfortably before I turn 50!
Yes, there are times in everyone’s life when we’re all too busy with our careers, our families, even projects around the house. But I turn to this quote from blogger and writer Mandy Hale who writes, “A person being “too busy” is a myth. People make time for the things that are really important to them!”
Why if I didn’t know better, I’d say that Mandy is insinuating that people who often say “they’re too busy” are politely trying to say that they don’t give a crap about us, without saying it aloud. That seems pretty harsh, doesn’t it?
Yes, it does though she’s probably right.
The other day I came across this anonymous quote which seems to fit the underlying theme of this post perfectly.
“Don’t trust someone who takes hours to text you back, but when you’re with them, they always have their phone in their hands.”
Sound like anyone you know? Sadly, I’m sure many of us are nodding in agreement right now.
Somewhere along the line, individuals who always use the excuse that they’re “too busy” rather than being transparent about their greedy, egotistic relationship with their own personal time feel as though hiding that truth will somehow hurt us less.
But I have a news flash. While you telling me I’m completely unimportant in your life will certainly sting (a lot) before being carefully compartmentalized, perpetual excuses and the sheer obliviousness to my existence hurts even more I can assure you.
So the next time you’re tempted to use the excuse you’re simply “too busy” to respond to an email, a text, an invitation, a phone call, a letter, an impromptu visit, whatever the situation, remember there’s a person on the other side of that communication.
A person who deserves a better excuse for your disrespect and dismissal than you’re simply too busy.