Craig Ruvere

02Nov 2023 by CJ

The Habit of Savoring Can Aid in Sleep and Mental Health

Life & Living

"The way to develop the habit of savoring is to pause when something is beautiful and good and catches our attention - the sound of rain, the look of the night sky - the glow in a child's eyes, or when we witness some kindness. Pause... then totally immerse in the experience of savoring it." (Tara Brach) Of late, aging, societal discords, and life's continual and unavoidable complications have rendered me incredibly nostalgic for a time when struggles seemed a bit easier and moments more joyful. This world I now find myself reminiscing over has long been extinct. However, settings that provided comfort and security and individuals whose worth and kindness were immeasurable are still very much alive in my heart and mind. These memories are so easily recollected with…

09Oct 2023 by CJ

Liabilities Add to Your Stress During Challenging Times

Information & Education, Life & Living

“Whenever expenses become greater than income, it is inevitable that liabilities will become greater than assets.” ― Hendrith Vanlon Smith Jr., Banker and Businessman. Growing up, I spent a lot of quality time with my grandparents. In doing so, I learned many things about living and loving just by being in their company and listening to their conversations as an often-curious little boy. One of the things I remember was my grandfather’s real-world advice when it came to money. He said, “Pay off debt sooner rather than later. Number one, why give a penny more to the banks than you have to, and number two, you never know what the future holds. Challenging times are made easier without liabilities.” For my grandparents and even my parents’ generation, they believed debt…

18Sep 2023 by CJ

“It Is What It Is” Means Beyond Our Control

Life & Living

I recently read an article on CNBC.com in which an associate professor at Columbia University recommended never using this common phrase in personal or professional conversations—"it is what it is." John McWhorter, who is also an author and linguist, says, "People say it when, really, what they mean is, I don't care." Speaking to Bill Gates on his popular podcast "Unconfuse Me," McWhorter said, "The first time someone said that to me was when something unpleasant had happened to me, and he didn't care. And he said, 'Well, it is what it is,'" McWhorter said. "And I parsed it and I thought, 'What a gorgeously chilly way of saying: Your problems don't matter to me.'" While I certainly can understand why McWhorter believes that saying "it is what it is" simply means someone doesn't…

14Aug 2023 by CJ

Loneliness and Alienation Can Be Solved with Unsolicited Kindness

Generosity & Kindness

Between all the negative headlines in our communities and political forums exist stories no one is talking about, even those impacted by their realities. Stories of loneliness and alienation; private battles often masterfully concealed by ordinary people unsure how to ask others for help. The story I’m about to share is one of those stories; a reminder that this journey through life should never be solely about self-gratification and a lack of true compassion but rather a mission to provide genuine kindness and acknowledgment to others, especially when no one is asking. Let me explain. Recently, a thirty-year-old man set out on what appeared to be nothing more than an ordinary stroll across the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco, California. A popular attraction and destination during the afternoon hours,…

12Jul 2023 by CJ

Life’s Greatest Lesson is Often Overlooked

Love & Relationships

My first reading of Mitch Albom's inspirational memoir about his revered sociology professor was back in early 2000, at the urging of my then girlfriend (now most treasured wife). The book is Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man, and Life's Greatest Lesson. Since that first reading, I've revisited the now-famous memoir several times over the last 23 years - most recently, last evening. While a short read at around 192 pages, I had never begun and completed my reading all within the span of a few hours. But on this particular night, that's exactly what happened. As I lay in bed reading through the last few pages while my wife slept comfortably next to me and tears now moistened my eyes, I was yet again profoundly impacted…