16Aug 2013 by CJ

Making decisions – no right or wrongs, it’s what works best for you

Life & Living
“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.” Deepak Chopra, The Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life Come on, admit it. We all obsess to some degree about making decisions. Rightfully so I might add. After all, everyone longs for a positive justification for the choices that we make – especially given the fact that we have to live with the results of those choices each and…
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02Aug 2013 by CJ

During times of sorrow, remember that this too shall pass

Love & Relationships
In the hopes of cheering up a very dear friend, I recently passed along the following words of wisdom - which I happily share with you today. “This too, shall pass. When things are bad, remember: It won’t always be this way. Take one day at a time. When things are good, remember: It won’t always be this way. Enjoy every great moment.” Doe Zantamata Isn’t that wonderful? I think it’s important to remember that in life nothing is constant. Times filled with infinite joy are almost always followed by some kind of sorrow or anguish, which seems never ending in its assault. It’s during these times of despair when it can be difficult to believe that better days are ahead. That the struggles we all must endure serve to…
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01Aug 2013 by CJ

A lifetime isn’t forever – don’t wait for second chances

Life & Living
When it comes to deciding what to eat for breakfast or which outfit to wear to work, I find little difficulty committing to a choice. After all, if you’re not happy with your selections you can easily change them the following day - with no consequences to speak of (except maybe landing on the “Worst Dressed” list at work). But many choices in life aren’t that simple. Take our recent decision to begin looking for a new home. My wife and I have lived in our current side-hall colonial for 11 years now – where did the time go? And while we love our home and the improvements we’ve made over the years, we’ve grown tired of the overpopulation a suburban lifestyle can bring. We both grew up in similar…
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30Jul 2013 by CJ

If someone truly loves you, you’ve been given the greatest gift

Love & Relationships
Isn’t it funny how our emotional state often fluctuates like a roller coaster – up and down with little warning? Over the last few days I just feel kind of blah. There’s nothing wrong with me physically – no glaring problems to speak of at home or a work. I just feel a little down – which means emotional songs filled with sadness are rotating on my iPod. I guess you could say I’m feeling a little numb emotionally. Stuck in limbo it would seem between reality and this foggy area that doesn’t necessarily make me sad, but it isn’t making me happy either. But that all seems to change when I catch a glimpse of my wife’s smile. She truly must possess some kind of magical powers because around…
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28Jul 2013 by CJ

It’s time to put the past to rest

Life & Living
“One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.” ~Michael Cibenko So many of us cling to the past like a security blanket – regardless of the fact that nothing will change its outcome. I don’t know about you, but my past is littered with events I wish I had handled differently – and I’ve spent many years holding on to that pain with deep regret. I’ve replayed them over and over in my head – each time suffering the same hardship I felt on the day they originally occurred. But when all was said and done nothing had changed, and I was left to yet again grieve as I had done before. The one…
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