Marriage shouldn’t be a chore, but a gift

I guess one could say that my wife and I are an “old married couple” now.

It’s been 12 years since we exchanged our vows in a garden ceremony, on a sunny Spring afternoon. And while a lot has changed since then, not only in the world but in our lives, our relationship seems to grow stronger as the year’s progress – regardless of the challenges that come along the way.

Unlike many of my male counterparts, I don’t view marriage as a burden – a prison sentence which forces you to relinquish who you were before you said “I do”.

I look at it as a pairing of two souls – an intimate connection, which often can’t be described, defined or understood by those outside the relationship. In truth it’s a gift to be able to share your life with someone who complements you so completely, without societal conditions, labels or unrealistic expectations.

If there’s one thing this old married man has learned over the years it’s that life is not infinite, and can dramatically change in an instant. So give someone special your attention, your support, your compassion and most of all, your love while you still can. It’s truly one of the greatest gifts you will ever give and receive.

“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet