Celebrate Thanksgiving with those you love – not strangers in a shopping mall

Generosity & Kindness, Life & Living
To me holidays are a time to hit the “pause button” from the rituals and responsibilities that surround our daily lives. It’s a time to reconnect with family and friends; to break out the fancy china and linens; to prepare a feast uncommonly found on your dining table during a busy work-week. In short, it’s a time to be thankful for all the blessings you have before you on a day which should be considered special, not ordinary. When I was growing up you’d be hard pressed to find a food store or retailer open on time-honored holidays. Highways and side streets were like utter ghost towns – void of frenzied commuters rushing from here and there. It was an opportunity for reflection and appreciation as the entire population shed…
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The beauty of nature is revealed in its falling leaves

Life & Living
As the leaves of tree branches begin to wither away and fall to the ground below, it’s customary for home owners to immediately gather and dispose of them. We perceive them as a “mess” to tend to – an inconvenience that often costs us time or labor to properly rid our properties of. Both the front and the back of my property are home to mighty trees that have begun their annual dormant ritual of shedding leaves which once thrived in the spring and summer months. Typically I too am out there on weekend mornings - racking and blowing the lifeless foliage into large piles. But if you were to pass by my house today you’d notice that hasn’t happened. For starters, many leaves have still yet to fall from…
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Adultery shows just how little we care about each other

Life & Living, Love & Relationships
It’s incredibly frustrating and utterly disrespectful that nothing in life is truly “private” any more. Spam email is one of my biggest annoyances – for on any given day my inbox is littered with dozens of unsolicited emails that require my personal time to unsubscribe to. Doesn’t seem fair, but then again who ever said that life was. Lately I’ve noticed countless emails for Medicare enrollment and motorized scooters (come on – I’m only 38 years old!); travel deals and concert tickets; and most recently dating sites for all races, genders, ages and fetishes. Frightening really. But today I received spam mail with a subject line I recognized immediately from a column I wrote back in July of 2009. AshleyMadison.com is a dating site geared towards those men and women…
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Life is a revolving door – make the most of the time you’re here

Life & Living
This weekend I happily played the role of chauffeur to and from Newark International Airport. On Saturday I dropped off my in-laws for a week-long stay in Colorado, and on Sunday I picked up a dear friend returning from a pleasurable trip to Germany. Different airlines; different terminals; same lousy airport to try and navigate through. This coming and going is probably insignificant to most – as traveling across the country or across the globe is not an infrequent occurrence for business or recreational purposes. But for some reason, on this particular weekend, I began to look at things a little more metaphorically. My chauffeur services reminded me just how often people come and go from our lives. It’s a sad reality, but nothing stays the same in life –…
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In life never settle for less than you deserve

Life & Living, Youth
I recently came across this anonymous quote and wanted to share it with all of you: “I've made mistakes in my life. I've let people take advantage of me and I've accepted way less than I deserve. But, I've learned from my bad choices and even though there are some things I can never get back and people who will never be sorry, I know better next time and I won't settle for anything less than I deserve.” I was struck most profoundly by the line – “I won’t settle for anything less than I deserve.” Far too often we convince ourselves that we must accept our current circumstances – that there’s nothing more we should expect out of life. We grow complacent and secure in our environments, but are…
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