Feelings are valid and compassionate leaders understand that

Feelings are valid and compassionate leaders understand that

Generosity & Kindness
“Your feelings are valid. You have every right to feel whatever emotion you want. You aren’t being dramatic. You aren’t over exaggerating. You’re feeling. And that’s okay.” - Unknown During the Covid19 pandemic, leaders from businesses and governments have been called to respond to unprecedented circumstances in which there is no predetermined guidebook to follow. What I predict will eventually emerge from all of this chaos is a clearer picture of who our “true leaders” are, weeding out those who simply claim to be leaders in title alone. It’s important to understand there’s a big difference. One of my favorite quotes on leadership comes from Amit Ray in his book Mindfulness Meditation for Corporate Leadership and Management. “Compassionate leaders honor the complexity of human relationships, nurture authenticity and create common…
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Lose Our Hope Because of the Selfishness of Others

Lose Our Hope Because of the Selfishness of Others

Generosity & Kindness, Life & Living
“There is a saying in Tibetan, 'Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.' No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that's our real disaster.” ― Dalai Lama During this global pandemic, it’s easy to lose our hope when we see the number of people infected by the coronavirus, and sadly those who’ve lost their lives, dramatically increase from one day to the next. For many of us, we’ve never experienced such a wide-spread outbreak in our lifetimes – affecting all walks and ages of life. While it’s easy to lose our hope against an enemy we can’t see and complications which cannot be predicted from one medical case to the next, I’ve lost my hope in something else. Humanity. I was…
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Better than average is a skewed personal perception

Better than average is a skewed personal perception

Generosity & Kindness, Life & Living
Throughout our personal and professional lives, we continually encounter individuals who believe they’re better than we are. One would think such a competition would cease once we all graduated from high school. But the game continues – though the rules adjust accordingly – known in the psychological community as the “better-than-average-effect” or BTAE. In short, the better-than-average-effect is the tendency for individuals to perceive that their abilities, behaviors, physical attributes and personality traits are far superior when compared to those who are deemed simply “average” among them. I think it’s important to define what it means to be average, though that in and of itself is challenging. Why? Because the internet has labeled “average” people as something bad. According to several misguided posts, average people are lazy, unaccomplished, irresponsible time…
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The greatest gift you have are the people you share your life with

The greatest gift you have are the people you share your life with

Generosity & Kindness, Life & Living, Love & Relationships
This Christmas, my wife purchased me a book entitled The Greatest Gift, written by Philip Van Doren Stern. While I was unfamiliar with the book at first, I would soon come to understand and appreciate the sentimentality of her gift. Stern spent much of his literary career as an editor and Civil War historian. But around 1938, the story of The Greatest Gift came to him in a dream – outlined from start to finish with incredible clarity. The only trouble was Stern had never composed a work of fiction before. He worked tirelessly capturing the plot from his subconscious, and by 1943 he finally completed the project, which amounted to the length of a short story. From GoodReads, it’s a, “tale about a man named George Pratt who ponders…
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Christmas cards are a reminder of those we’ve lost

Christmas cards are a reminder of those we’ve lost

Generosity & Kindness, Life & Living
The long-standing tradition of sending out Christmas cards during the holiday season can be credited to Henry Cole of Victorian England. It was often customary in those days to send out letters to family and friends around Christmas and New Year’s, and the newly created British postal system meant people were sending their holiday tidings in mass. Henry Cole, traveling in very elite social circles, found himself with an over abundance of letters he simply couldn’t respond to with handwritten replies, as was expected. Ace Collins, author of Stories Behind the Great Traditions of Christmas, writes, “In Victorian England, it was considered impolite not to answer mail. He had to figure out a way to respond to all of these people.” His solution became the Christmas card, first sent back in…
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