Being honest with yourself leads you down a path of normalcy

Life & Living, Love & Relationships
“I’d rather be honest and authentic and disappoint some people than to exhaust myself trying to keep up the façade of perfection.” – Crystal Paine Have you ever pondered the question what is a normal life? It's a question that requires you being completely honest with yourself. I sure have. I feel like I’ve been searching for it most of my life, and yet it always seems to escape me. I look at other people around me and their lives seem so, well, normal. Yes, they have struggles. But overwhelmingly their lives seem void of the pitfalls and disappointments I always seem to find myself plagued with. I’ve been doing this a long time. Living that is, or struggling to make the best out of what I’ve been given. It’s been four decades now, and…
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Manners are your way of showing respect for someone

Life & Living, Youth
“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use.” - Emily Post
 Manners are the way people conduct themselves – their behavior towards others. Here’s an example of what I’m talking about. I once was acquainted with someone who made spending time together more of a chore than a pleasure. You’d call on a Monday, ask about seeing each other for dinner on a Friday, and find yourself waiting until Thursday for confirmation. Their typical response – “I’ll have to get back to you on that.” I always found that response to be puzzling. I mean, either you want to see me or you don’t, right? Yes, we all have to check our calendars,…
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How do I treat people around me – is it really the way I think?

Life & Living
Have you ever asked yourself the question, how do I treat people? Take that one step further and ask, how do OTHERS think I treat people? Those are two very difficult questions we rarely, if ever, ask ourselves as we journey through life. And regardless if we do, we seldom answer honestly. I recently finished reading a book called Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box by The Arbinger Institute. In it, they summarize why the two questions above will probably never be answered truthfully. “Whether at work or at home, self-deception obscures the truth about ourselves, corrupts our view of others and our circumstances, and inhibits our ability to make wise and helpful decisions.” Here’s where I think the problem really is. Far too often, we treat people…
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Old friend – a reminder of what was and can be in life

Life & Living, Love & Relationships
“Happiness is meeting an old friend after a long time and feeling that nothing has changed.” – Anonymous My wife and I recently hosted an old family friend at our home for a few days. Time slows down for no one in this world. To my surprise, it had been many years since the last time I’d seen her in person or enjoyed her company. It’s unfortunate how the absence of someone in your daily existence truly makes you forget, even justify, why you’ve lost contact. All the wonderful memories you once shared have become nothing more than pages in your personal history book. Photos in a scrapbook you rarely, if ever, glance at. We all take for granted that our time here on earth is infinite. We always assume…
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Doing good work is something to be rewarded, not compromised

Life & Living
“Build a good name. Keep your name clean. Don’t make compromises, don’t worry about making a bunch of money or being successful — be concerned with doing good work.” - William S. Burroughs Years ago, doing good work was something lauded by organizations and businesses across our nation. My grandfather was an incredibly wise man, and a firm believer in that notion. Growing up, he always instilled in me that a strong work ethic - one bursting with morals and character - would lead to absolute fulfillment. He recognized such fulfillment as one of the greatest successes in life. Charles F. Glassman once remarked, “Some say if you want success surround yourself with successful people. I say if you want true and lasting success surround yourself with people of integrity.”…
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