“He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” Raymond Hull
The key to any solid relationship is unconditionally loving and respecting someone for exactly who they are – not what you hope to change them into.
More and more I see people so desperate to be in a relationship, that they’re willing to compromise themselves to varying degrees – all in an effort to fit within someone else’s confines, rather than your own.
As a happily married man for the last 12 years, I can tell you that compromise is a very important part of any relationship. But there’s a big difference between compromising and sacrificing the person you really are to gain the affections of someone else.
I offer the following words to live by:
“It’s wonderful when you can bring sparkle into people’s lives without fading away from your own true color. Keep the hue in you.” Dodinsky
If someone is trying to change you into something you’re not, simply to guarantee their affections, I’m not sure what you’d call that. But it’s certainly NOT a solid, enduring relationship – that’s for sure.