“It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.”
― Nicholas Sparks
It’s been many years since I’ve spoken to my family – a reality that was not easily accepted at first. After all, we always assume that our family will always be there for us – good and bad – providing us the unconditional support and affection we all deserve.
But life isn’t a Hallmark movie. And ideals can often dilute reality – as was the case in my family situation. It boils down to dealing with an unhealthy dynamic, or valuing yourself enough to demand more. Not an easy road to travel down, but no one ever said that accepting and processing the truth is easy.
I’m well aware that some people cannot understand my decision, and to a certain extent I’m glad they don’t have to in their own lives. But I assure you I no longer harbor any resentment or anger; sadness or regrets. For as the quote above states, I can always keep the wonderful memories of the past alive in my heart. And in truth, I do.
Moving on is not admitting defeat, but instead showing the courage to ask for more out of a continually unpredictable life.