“What draws people to be friends is that they see the same truth. They share it.” – C. S. Lewis
The foundation of any great relationship is built upon a set of commonalities which enable the pair to navigate the uncharted waters of life – together.
Platonic or romantic the equation is the same – as long as you both continue down the path of moral guidance, truth and love, anything is possible.
But relationships rarely stay the same – or should I say people rarely do.
Once they no longer share the same truths, it becomes impossible for the relationship to sustain on any level beyond superficiality. What’s perhaps most upsetting is how often people become so blind to their evolution. They say things like, “It’s not me, I haven’t changed. It must be you.”
That utter denial of what’s going on in their reality is a lack of courage to simply admit that the foundation, which once seemed indestructible, is crumbling.
It’s a sad game to play when you realize the person you thought you knew (or should I say the person you created in your head) is not the person they really are. And while it in no way diminishes the value of previous experiences, it doesn’t mean you have to continue the façade.
We will meet a lot of people over the course of our lives. Some will be long-lasting companions or soul mates, while others will sadly never live up to the expectations we had in our hearts.
No none said that relationships were ever easy. But never forget that “Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” – Flavia Weedn