03Nov 2018 by CJ
High school is a part of the past you can’t live again

High school is a part of the past you can’t live again

Youth
“High school, you don't want to go back and do it over again.” - Marguerite Moreau It’s been 25 years since I graduated from high school. And as is customary, my graduating class has arranged a high school reunion to commemorate the milestone. I didn’t attend any of my previous reunions and honestly, I have no plans to attend this or any other future high school reunions. Understand that I have no animosity towards any of my former classmates. But I wouldn’t classify my years in high school as rewarding or memorable. High school was another life – a part of my past which has no place in my present or my future. While some would gladly trade their current circumstances for a chance to relive their skewed reality of…
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30Sep 2018 by CJ
Parents – giving your children what they want is not the answer

Parents – giving your children what they want is not the answer

Youth
“Some parents feel like it is their duty to fulfill all or most of the wants of their children. Sometimes it is because they lacked things as a child and want to make up for their own loss, or they believe that their children will love and appreciate them more if they give them everything they want.” – Matthew Whoolery When my wife was a little girl, and began losing her baby teeth, she asked her mother why she was only getting 50 cents from The Tooth Fairy when most of her friends were getting a dollar. Her mother reminded her to be grateful for anything she was given and not to expect more. Well, the next time she lost a tooth and put it under her pillow for The…
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16Sep 2018 by CJ
Gender roles have no place in successful parenting

Gender roles have no place in successful parenting

Youth
“It’s time to teach good gender roles and to ditch the unnecessary ones.” – Dan Pearce There are many subjects I have strong opinions on (as you probably can tell from this blog). One which often infuriates me is our society’s antiquated and stereotypical beliefs when it comes to gender roles. Dan Pearce writes a wonderfully honest and truly inspiring blog entitled Single Dad Laughing, and I’ve come to appreciate his message on a range of topics regarding parenting, love and the human connection. While searching online for information surrounding the topic of gender roles in society today, the following passage popped up and immediately caught my attention. “Dads. It’s time to show our sons how to properly treat a woman. It’s time to show our daughters how a girl…
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30Jan 2018 by CJ

Being scared really means you’re doing something brave

Life & Living, Youth
“It’s OKAY to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.” ― Mandy Hale Many of us support the notion that “being scared” is only experienced by children who believe there are monsters hiding under the bed. While I agree that the fear of monsters, and other frightening creatures conjured up by our overactive imagination, disappears as we get older, that doesn’t mean we no longer know what it’s like to be scared. You may not know what it’s called, but all of us have a comfort zone. Author and thought leader Roy T. Bennett says, “The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, at ease and secure.” Breaking away from what’s familiar and safe can often be emotionally crippling to adults.…
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21Jan 2018 by CJ

Influence your children by example – they’re always watching

Youth
“Although parents can’t ultimately determine the outcome of their children, they do have a tremendous influence on them.” – Scott Turansky Recently, while flipping through a collection of old family photos, I realized how many people were a positive influence on my life. It’s a fact that our actions and behaviors are often the direct influence of someone we revere. For many of us, that influence comes from our very first teachers in life – our parents. As children, we often take on the characteristics of our parents – not surprising given that our parents are the first role models we see when forming behaviors (both good and bad). Our parents’ tolerance and biases; their likes and dislikes – all begin to influence the adults we’ll eventually become. But perhaps…
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