A modest childhood doesn’t mean you’re missing out

A modest childhood doesn’t mean you’re missing out

Youth
I grew up with a very modest childhood. Believe me, that’s not meant to be an insult. Quite simply my parents and grandparents understood the importance of sharing their time with my sister and me.   Of creating memorable experiences rather than buying us an abundance of toys which ultimately lost their value almost as soon as they were taken out of the box. For some reading this post, you might assume I grew up deprived that my modest childhood wasn’t filled with every toy imaginable. I suppose it does contradict the parenting of today where toys and “things” seem to define one’s childhood. But a study out of Germany, echoed by a recent study by the University of Toledo, makes for some interesting contrasts. In a German kindergarten class,…
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School shootings are a reality we can’t continue to ignore

School shootings are a reality we can’t continue to ignore

Youth
“Saying gun control hurts our freedom is a false argument amounting to propaganda. Gun laws don't curtail freedom any more than speed limits or seat belts. You still get to drive your car and have guns, we're just trying to save lives as you do.” ― DaShanne Stokes On May 7, 2019, an 18-year-old student was killed in a school shooting at the STEM School Highlands Ranch in Colorado after two fellow students entered the school armed with guns and intent. The student was just three days away from graduating high school and starting a life filled with promise, hope and opportunity. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family who I’m choosing not to identify out of respect. School shootings greatly concern me on a very personal level. You see,…
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Masculinity stereotypes are not something you’re born with, it’s something you learn

Masculinity stereotypes are not something you’re born with, it’s something you learn

Life & Living, Youth
The APA (American Psychological Association) recently did something quite historic in my opinion.  After more than 40 years of research and 127 years in existence, they’re issuing a warning against “masculinity ideology” – the misguided stereotypes parents instill on young boys during development. Entitled Guidelines for the Psychological Practice with Boys and Men, it’s the first report of its kind designed to help practitioners guide their young male patients through “social forces that can harm their mental health”. Why it’s so important Jared Skillings, a psychologist and the APAs Chief of Professional Practice says, "Masculinity ideology was important to highlight because it represents a set of characteristics that are unhealthy for men — men who are sexist or violent or don’t take care of themselves.” Before you dismiss your role in…
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High school is a part of the past you can’t live again

High school is a part of the past you can’t live again

Youth
“High school, you don't want to go back and do it over again.” - Marguerite Moreau It’s been 25 years since I graduated from high school. And as is customary, my graduating class has arranged a high school reunion to commemorate the milestone. I didn’t attend any of my previous reunions and honestly, I have no plans to attend this or any other future high school reunions. Understand that I have no animosity towards any of my former classmates. But I wouldn’t classify my years in high school as rewarding or memorable. High school was another life – a part of my past which has no place in my present or my future. While some would gladly trade their current circumstances for a chance to relive their skewed reality of…
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Parents – giving your children what they want is not the answer

Parents – giving your children what they want is not the answer

Youth
“Some parents feel like it is their duty to fulfill all or most of the wants of their children. Sometimes it is because they lacked things as a child and want to make up for their own loss, or they believe that their children will love and appreciate them more if they give them everything they want.” – Matthew Whoolery When my wife was a little girl, and began losing her baby teeth, she asked her mother why she was only getting 50 cents from The Tooth Fairy when most of her friends were getting a dollar. Her mother reminded her to be grateful for anything she was given and not to expect more. Well, the next time she lost a tooth and put it under her pillow for The…
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