Job hunting is not as easy as you might think

Life & Living
“Every experience in your life is being orchestrated to teach you something you need to know to move forward.” Brian Tracy One of the things my wife and I had to sacrifice in moving from New Jersey to Colorado was the comfort and security of our careers. This was probably our biggest concern in making our final decision to relocate across the country. While the economy in Colorado is much different than that of the Tri-State area, searching for new employment is never easy – especially if you haven’t done it in a while. We knew we’d have the same career fate no matter when we chose to move – unless of course we waited until we retired. But by then we’d have wasted so much time on an indefinite…
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Remember that part of being a good friend is knowing how to listen

Life & Living, Youth
When I left New Jersey almost four weeks ago for Colorado, I left a very dear friend I’ve known for over 15 years. I met her back when the two of us were working in the corporate headquarters at the now defunct Mikasa brand - and we’ve been pals ever since! Our typical routine was to meet for coffee or dinner every week, where the two of us would discuss the trials and tribulations of life before just being silly – quoting one-liners from the classic TV sitcom The Golden Girls. It’s sad how often I took our time together for granted – a realization that hit me after 1,800 miles and a two hour time difference made those get-togethers impossible to sustain. One thing I’ve learned in the weeks…
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Saying “I’m sorry” means setting aside your pride even when you think you’re right

Life & Living, Youth
When my wife and I first became engaged back in the year 2000, she was the first of three daughters to make her way down the aisle. And as with many first time mother’s-of-the-bride, her mother had her own vision for our upcoming nuptials – which is only natural. But her ideas didn’t necessarily align with those of my wife. My wife is a very loving, compassionate and patient person, but she’s also very head strong and not afraid to tell you what she does and doesn’t want – especially on her wedding day. Tensions began to build, words were said on both sides, and it wasn’t long before any and all forms of communication ceased. But during my wife’s bridal shower something amazing happened. Her mother pulled each of…
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Complaining without a viable solution solves nothing

Life & Living
Jean Ferris once wrote, “I know it's important to do more than just complain when there's something you don't like. You need to try to do something about it, or you're nothing but a whiner.” Of late I feel a bit like a whiner – complaining to anyone who will listen to me about some of the challenges of leaving the safety and security of life in New Jersey for Colorado. And while these “growing pains” as I like to refer to them are completely normal, complaining about situations or circumstances which are only temporary is not. In his book, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment, Eckhart Tolle writes, “To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge.” I think we…
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What makes a successful life has more to do with what you can’t see

Generosity & Kindness, Life & Living, Love & Relationships
It’s been three weeks since my wife and I permanently moved from New Jersey to Colorado. Man time goes fast! While the transition has been difficult and searching for new employment has been challenging, I’m starting to realize that I’ve been afforded a rather rare gift in life – the gift of time. Time to share ordinary, everyday moments with my beautiful wife and time to refocus my priorities for the next chapter in my life. Something I’ve been thinking a great deal about lately has been the word success. Webster defines success as “The fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect or fame; the correct or desired result of an attempt.” So many of us, myself included, spend so much of our time misguided by the word “success” and…
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