Category: Life & Living

“A good leader must understand what makes a good life and how to help people find that. A leader’s job is not to provide a paycheck and benefits: It’s about helping people be truly happy and find meaning in their work and life. When a leader succeeds with this, it unlocks real performance.” ― Rasmus Hougaard I recently started reading this book, which caught my eye on a library shelf. The Mind of the Leader: How to Lead Yourself, Your People, and Your Organization for Extraordinary Results by Rasmus Hougaard and Jacqueline Carter. Whenever I discover a book that inspires me as I’m reading it, I like to share it with individuals I know will also appreciate its message. My current supervisor and I both have an affinity for quality leadership in…

“Social media was designed to SHARE what you’re doing and who you are, not BE what you’re doing and be who you are.” ― Richie Norton By definition, social media was designed to create communities in which to share information, ideas and messages with people from around the world. While the original intention was surely achieved in the early days, today it’s grown into more of a personal forum – a platform for thoughts and opinions that we wouldn’t often share in mixed company. You see, social media has offered people from all over the globe something their missing in reality – courage. As Norton says above, “to SHARE what you’re doing and who you are” often looks very different when you’re not hiding behind a screen. Social media affords us…

If I were to ask you what you need out of life, what would you say? Chances are you’d probably confuse the word “need” with the word “want” and before long you’d provide me with a list filled with materialistic possessions that have nothing to do with what you actually need. I recently came across an article by Allison Kahner, Psy.D. on Psychology Today entitled Key to Happiness: Focus on What You Need, Not What You Want. She had some pretty interesting things to say. “Studies of happiness and wealth repeatedly show that beyond a certain level of income or material prosperity, happiness levels do not continue to increase with increased levels of wealth. That is to say, once you have what you actually need (and maybe plus a little…

Growing up in an Italian-American family, difficult conversations were always the white elephant in the room. Everyone knew they were there, but no one dared bring them up. But difficult conversations can only be ignored for so long before they come to a head (usher in an impromptu screaming match during family dinners). And while not every difficult conversation means fist-pounding at the dining room table and someone storming out in tears, no one every looks forward to having them. Why is that you might ask? Irina Firstein (LCSW), says, “Most people are reluctant to express their feelings and thoughts because they are concerned about rejection, anger or alienating others.” That sounds about right to me. Personally, I’ve had many bad experiences trying to have difficult conversations with people I…

“I find television very educating. Every time somebody turns on the set, I go into the other room and read a book.” – Groucho Marx When my wife and I moved from New Jersey to Colorado, we decided to try life without cable television. After all, we were in a new state and a new house and getting ourselves settled in both was our top priority. Since the house was already prewired for cable, we agreed we could always add it later on. Fast forward three years and you still won’t find cable television in my house. And you know what? We haven’t really missed it. Beyond the financial rewards of “cutting-the-cord” as the phrase goes, we’ve gotten back something immeasurable and irreplaceable once it’s gone - time. We once…